Why I love Addison:
1. Because you see the growth of her character. In the beginning she was a bitch, eventually you realize she's not so bad after all. Then you realize, she's not bad at

2. Her character showed weaknesses when on the outside, she's such a strong presence --- big-shot doctor, one of the best in her field, gorgeous, nice, funny, has a big heart, smart, rich, sexy.... and yet, she has insecurities (Meredith); so perfect yet so flawed.
There's too many dimensions to Addison. It's a joy to see these dimensions unravel in each episode. Discovering how she is makes her likeability factor a lot more positive.
What is wrong with Meredith:
1. She loves to play the victim. That's why it's easy for other characters to walk all over her. (Christina, Izzy and even buddy-buddy George, who in at least three episodes in Season 2 couldn't stand to be near her, and she just allowed that). Because she plays the victim, the circumstances she gets into makes her an open target for getting hurt.

- She was abandoned by her father
- She was left with a mother who probably hasn't hugged her enough.
So, as a result, you have this pitiful character who desires, above anything else, love.
3. She will forever be like a child, in a sense: immature and self-absorbed. Pick Me. Choose Me. Love Me... sounds like something a child would say. And because she unconsciously behaves like a child, Meredith will not be able to make a stand. She is similar to Derek in that aspect.